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Tom Ehrich
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MARCH 2007


How can I pray without fear and doubt? I feel like God is not there and will not talk back to me. I feel like giving up on prayer. Sometimes I think God is mad because of this.


I don’t know that fear and doubt can ever be banished from our prayers. Prayer brings us close to God, and that can be a scary place to be. Not because God wants to frighten us, but because it is awesome to contemplate one who loves us without reservation, whose heart is open to us even when we feel unworthy. The life that God wants for us can seem daunting. The hope that God would give us is so different from the world’s easier ways.

It can be frightening also to encounter our own need for God. Many people hide from that need.

When our prayer is over, then comes the silence. I know that people yearn for God to fill that silence with his words or visions. But God has chosen to respond to us in ways other than words or visions. The silence is your time to thank God for listening and to ask God for discernment of what comes next.


I have been closer to the Episcopal Church than any other and believe I have been happier there. However, my husband is not interested in any church really but has told me point blank he does not want to attend the Episcopal Church. In light of recent events, I wonder if the Episcopal Church or any church is for me. I am continually dismayed at the behavior of so-called good Christians and have wondered if the Episcopal Church can continue to survive. Do you have any advice for me?

First, it is true that the Episcopal Church is going through some important and difficult times right now. So are other denominations. The presenting issues—a gay bishop, a female Presiding Bishop, diverse views of Scriptue—might not be issues that matter to you. Behind those issues, however, are some critically important matters having to do with modernity, how we think about God, how we read Scripture, how we rethink our inherited tradition, what roles God seems to want for us today, and what we believe our faith communities should be doing to serve God.

Other than the usual folks who use any controversy to feather their nests, people of good will and solid faith can be found on all sides of these issues. I think we need to be talking to each other, not shouting epithets and claims of doctrinal certainty. For that to happen, we will need to ratchet down our noise, let go of our prideful assertions, and do the humble work of discerning God’s call today.

My suggestion is that you consider entering more deeply into this challenging moment, rather than running from it. These are matters worthy of our best efforts, and every voice needs to be heard, including yours.

Second, I think it is good when husband and wife can worship together. If your husband is dead set against the Episcopal Church, I assure you there is a large and wonderful world of opportunity out there. The United States has well over 300 denominations, some of which are close enough to the Episcopal Church that you could both feel at home. The Lutheran, Methodist and Presbyterian traditions come immediately to mind. Many college towns have liberal Baptists congregations that share many convictions with the Episcopal Church.

I hope religion won’t come between you and your husband. As a wise counselor once wrote, it’s important to “meet in the middle.”


Every time l decide that l need to move closer to God, everything in my life starts to go wrong. No matter how much l pray, it seems to get worse. When l stop praying and praising God, things start to improve. I have such a hunger to know God, but now l have become fearful to turn to him. What is it that drives me from God?

Remember what the apostle Paul said: “Nothing can separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus.” God does what God wants to do. We don’t control God by our prayer or lack of prayer. Whether you sense God as close or as far away has to do with something happening inside you, not with God’s decision to go or to come.

I urge you not to be afraid of turning to God. God loves you without reservation and wants you to know him.


If a body is cremated, how will it be resurrected during the Second Coming?

Cremation simply accelerates the “going down to dust” that awaits all bodies. As far as we know, it has no impact on God’s love of all that God has made or God’s determination to draw all life to himself.


Raised in a free (for lack of a better word) family, I was encouraged to believe as I did. For the longest time this meant I believed nothing, and, therefore, I assumed that I did not believe in god. However, I think that might be untrue…. I have wavered heavily on the subject of religion…but it’s not for a lack of trying. I have worked until I sincerely believed I would never waver, and in a flash I lost it all. …How do I secure my beliefs?

I doubt that faith will ever be “secure,” to use your word, or settled and stable. It is the nature of God to keep leading us onward, challenging us to grow and to serve. Faith is a journey, not a destination. As such, faith is always in flux, always in tension with the world, always seeking more from God and more from oneself. Faith is like a conversation that goes from topic to topic, question to question.

In my experience, faith grows when we take the journey, especially when we put faith to work, such as engaging in a mission project, forgiving an enemy, or standing against injustice. Faith grows when you give yourself away, and then discover God’s strength bolstering you and God’s love surrounding you. The example that means so much to me is the building of a Habitat for Humanity house, when a large number of semi-skilled people, often starting out as strangers to each other, gladly give up many hours of their lives to help another person, without counting the cost or expecting a prize. That is God among us.

Another example is visiting the elderly and dying, a selfless act that stretches your patience but feeds your soul. That, too, is God among us. The world, you see, doesn’t value such “waste of time.” But God does.

My suggestion, therefore, is that you take whatever level of faith you have, be it as small as a mustard seed, and that you start to give it away in serving others.


I'm a minor who wants to be Orthodox, but my mom won't let me! What should I do?

It would help to know what’s behind your mother’s decision. It could be that she has excellent reasons for wanting you to avoid Orthodox tradition at this time. Parents generally want the best for their children. In an area as critical as faith, they aren’t likely to be unreasonable.

My first suggestion, therefore, is to ask your mother to explain.

It’s important that you educate yourself about Orthodox tradition. That word covers a lot of ground, from well-established churches like the Greek Orthodox or Russian Orthodox, to doctrinally conservative splinter groups within mainline traditions. A web search and some reading of an encyclopedia would deepen your understanding. Which dimension of “Orthodoxy” are you pursuing? How does it differ from your current religious background?

My second suggestion, therefore, is to do your homework and then approach your mother again, not to prove her wrong with carefully presented information, but to help her understand where you are coming from.

Finally, I would discourage you from allowing this to become a family battle. You have a long life ahead of you and many opportunities to explore your faith. Now is the time to honor the bonds of family.


What are the rules of fasting for seniors over 65?

I’m not aware of any church rules for fasting. The practice has a long tradition within Christian communities, as well as Muslim and Jewish communities. From one visit to the Persian Gulf during the Muslim season of Ramadan, my impression was that the fasting protocols during Ramadan were more detailed and rigorous than those observed by modern Christians.

When I teach about fasting, I caution that fasting isn’t for everyone. Pregnant women, for example, and those with certain health concerns probably should avoid fasting. As for seniors, I think that depends entirely on personal health. If you have any questions about your own participation in fasting, I encourage you to discuss them with your physician.


Who observes Shrove Tuesday (burning of the palms) besides Catholics and Episcopalians?

Shrove Tuesday is the English name for a traditional celebration on the night before Ash Wednesday, which begins the penitential season of Lent. It is observed widely throughout Christian lands, from Poland to Pennsylvania, from Germany to Sweden. It has various names, such as Mardi Gras (Fat Tuesday), Pancake Tuesday, Malasada Day (Hawaii), Carnival Tuesday (Portugal), and more.

Because Lent was a time for plain foods and avoiding rich ingredients such as those used in pancakes, the Tuesday before Lent became a day to use up those rich ingredients. Hence, the association with pancakes.

I’m not familiar with any widespread tradition to burn palms on Shrove Tuesday, except possibly as a matter of convenience in getting ashes ready for Ash Wednesday.

 

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My teenage grandchild asks, "What is Ash Wednesday?" Can you help me answer that one?

Ash Wednesday begins the season of Lent. It falls 40 weekdays before Easter (Sundays aren’t counted in the 40 days of Lent). Ash Wednesday takes its name from ashes, a traditional Jewish sign of penitence. In some liturgical traditions, palm fronds or palm crosses from the previous year’s Palm Sunday are burned, and then the ashes are applied to the worshiper’s forehead on Ash Wednesday as a token of their commitment to observe a “holy Lent.”

Ancient Christian tradition was to observe Lent with fasting (a discipline of going without food at certain times), study, self-examination, confession and prayer. During this time, candidates for Holy Baptism were prepared for baptism on Easter Eve. Many churches continue those traditions.

The traditional color for altar hangings and clergy vestments during Lent is purple. Traditionally, altars are decorated in a plainer style, perhaps with the omission of flowers. Because Lent was a time for rigorous fasting, Christians often observed the last day before Lent as a time to celebrate and to use up leavening. Hence, Mardi Gras (“Fat Tuesday”), also known as “Shrove Tuesday.”



Sometimes I feel like the world is bigger than God, and that makes me sad. I don't know what do.

Yes, life can seem overwhelming at times. From losses in one's personal life to vast displays of tragedy, despair and warfare, life can seem too large for God, too lost, too much in disarray. God's response to such disrepair may be somewhat surprising. Rather than wage holy war on Caesar and fix everything in sight, God took the form of a child, who grew into a man and lived his entire life in a small region of a large world. He taught a few, healed a few, fed a few, and called a few to follow him.

And yet that one man, Jesus of Nazareth, changed the world. Not because his followers vanquished Caesar or solved all their problems, but because his love and goodness showed humanity a new way. So it is that when life seems overwhelming to you, God will send someone to care for you and to lead you to hope. I can't say when it will happen or who it will be, but I believe God loves you and all of humanity, and that God will act on that love in ways you will see.

 

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Why does God never truly help when you are at your edge and need guidance?

For reasons known only to God, God has chosen to allow suffering, evil, disease, anguish and warfare to exist in creation. The usual theological argument is that God wants our response to him to be free, loving and total, not dependent on getting our way or having our problems resolved. The Book of Job is one exploration of that argument.

This isn’t to say that God causes our troubles. The psalmist says that God is our help in time of trouble, not the cause of what ails us.

How, then, does that help come into our lives? Not necessarily through comfort, health or the vanquishing of our worries. God’s help seems to take the form of internal resolve, supportive companions, communities of faith, peace amid the storm, hope amid despair, love amid hatred.

What does that mean to you when you are on the edge, as you put it? I think it means to ask for help – from a pastor, from church companions, from caring people who cross your path. If you haven’t found a church home, this would be good time to do that. In my experience, patient and steadfast help in time of trouble can come through members of a faith community.

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